Meet in a public place, in the daytime if you can, after you have had a real conversation on Only Lesbians. A café, a park with other people, a gallery. Not a house, and not a car. Tell a friend where you are going and when you expect to be back. Arrange your own way there and your own way home.
A video call before you meet is a reasonable step, not a test you have to pass. If she will not show her face, or the face does not match the photos, you can stop. How long before you meet is the unhurried version of that decision. You do not owe a first meeting to be polite.
Keep the planning on the site until the place and the time are agreed. A request to move to another app before you have met is a common line, including between women. Why it is better to stay on the site is why. If the conversation turns into pressure, money, or a photo you cannot take back, stop. How to block and report is the button.
We will never ask you for a fee to meet someone, and neither should she. If money appears before you have sat down together, it is not a date.
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