There is no correct number of days. Meet when you know who you are talking to, and not before. For a lot of women that is a few evenings of messages, then a video call, then a public place. If you want longer, take longer. A woman who is real can wait.
Use the time to check the ordinary things. Does she answer what you asked, or does she steer back to photos, money, or another app? Does the detail stay the same? Spotting a fake profile is the pattern when it does not. Meeting safely is what the first meeting itself should look like.
You can say you are not ready. That is a complete message. You do not have to invent an excuse, and you do not have to keep talking until you are. If you have not dated for a long time, slower is normal. You have not dated in years is written for that.
Messaging stays free however long you take. We will never ask you for a fee to keep the conversation going until you are ready to meet, or instead of meeting.
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