Empty café tables on a quiet stone street, with flowers in the window.

You have not dated in years

How to start again when it has been years, with a current photo and a first meeting you can keep.
A woman at a bright café table, one coffee, looking out of the window.

Starting again is allowed to be clumsy. You do not have to sound as if you have been doing this all along. A short profile that says where you are, that you want to meet a woman, and that it has been a while, is a honest start. Women answer that more often than they answer a performance.

One photo from this year. Leave surnames and workplaces off the page. Writing a profile is the shape of those few lines. You can pause the profile and read before anyone can find you. You do not have to be quick, and you do not owe a photograph you cannot take back.

The first meeting can be short and public. How long before you meet is the permission to wait. Meeting safely is the café, not the house. If a divorce is the reason it has been years, dating after a divorce is the more particular page.

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