You can join while you are still working out what you want. Say so if it is true. "Just out of a long relationship, in Bath, and I would like to meet a woman without a big plan yet" is a fair profile. It warns the other person, which is kinder than pretending you are ready for something you are not.
You do not have to tell the story of the breakup on the page. A clause is enough. If the relationship was a marriage, dating after a divorce may be the closer fit, including when the paperwork is not finished and you are simply single in practice. If it has been a long quiet stretch since then, you have not dated in years is the other page.
Keep the first meetings light and public, and keep them optional. How long before you meet is the wait. You can pause the profile if a week is too much. You do not owe a new relationship to prove you have moved on.
We will never ask you for a fee to look, or to decide you are not ready after all.
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