You can say no. A photo you send in a message is a photo you cannot take back, and you do not owe one because the person asking is also a woman. The picture on your profile is the one you have already chosen to show. Another one, a clearer one, or one without clothes, is a separate decision.
Ask yourself whether you would hand her that picture if she were sitting in the café. If the answer is no, do not send it because the conversation feels friendly. Photos that get a reply is the picture that belongs on the profile. A request that arrives before she has referred to anything you wrote is a request you can ignore.
If she presses, or she offers money, or she threatens to be offended, stop. How to block and report is the end of that exchange. You do not have to negotiate.
We will never ask you for a photo in order to use the site, beyond the ID that our team checks and members never see. A member asking for ID is not that check.
Create a free account to message someone on Only Lesbians.