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A HER alternative

HER is a dating app for women who want to meet women. Only Lesbians is a separate site for adults who want to meet a woman nearby. Joining is free. There is no subscription and no credit card.

In short

Only Lesbians does not charge to join or to message. A profile is for members who are signed in. HER is a different service. Check their site for what they charge and what a profile shows.

Who it may suit

Only Lesbians

  • You want to meet a woman nearby, without a subscription.
  • You want a username on the profile, not your legal name.
  • You want to pause the profile without deleting it.

HER

  • You already use HER and you want to stay there.
  • You want to look at both and decide for yourself.
  • Their current terms match what you want. Check HER. Those terms change.

Side by side

The first line is what we do. The second line is what to check on HER. We do not publish their terms.

Cost

Only Lesbians is free to join and free to message. A voice call or a video call on the site is free. There is no subscription and no credit card, so there is no charge on a statement.

HER sets its own price. Check their site before you join. A price can change.

The profile

Other members see the username you chose, your age, your town, and the photos you chose. They do not see your surname, your address, or your workplace unless you type those in. A web search does not open the profile.

See what HER puts on a profile, and whether a web search can open it.

The age check

The age check is free. A person reviews the ID. Other members never see the document, and your legal name is not put on the profile. Until it is approved, you cannot message, and other members' photos stay blurred.

See how HER checks that a member is an adult.

Photos

A person reviews an upload. One current photo of you is enough before search opens. A private photo stays locked until you share it. Until the other member has done the age check, your photos stay blurred for them.

See who can open a photo on HER, and whether you can keep one private.

Messages

The conversation stays on Only Lesbians. You do not have to reply. A message that asks for an email address or a phone number is not delivered.

See whether HER lets a stranger ask you to move the conversation somewhere else.

Leaving

You can pause the profile. Other members cannot find it while it is paused, and you can still look. Deleting the account removes the profile and the messages you sent. Delete photos and videos first. That cannot be undone.

See how to pause or close an account on HER.

Frequently asked questions

Is Only Lesbians free?

Yes. Joining Only Lesbians is free and messaging is free. There is no subscription and no credit card.

Can a web search find my profile?

No. A profile on Only Lesbians is for members who are signed in. Searching the web does not open it.

What if someone asks for money?

Only Lesbians will never ask you for money, a gift card, or a verification payment. Stop, and report the profile. They are not told that you reported them.

Should I leave HER?

That is your choice. This page says what Only Lesbians does. It does not tell you to close another account. Check HER for their current terms.

Does Only Lesbians speak for HER?

No. HER publishes its own terms, and those terms change. Check their site for the current cost, privacy, and how to leave.

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